Popular life coach and social commentator, Solomon Buchi, has reacted to the news of media personality Toke Makinwa expecting her first child.

While Buchi expressed genuine happiness for Toke, especially as she approaches 40, he admitted to being uncomfortable with her attributing the pregnancy to a “spiritual agreement with God.”

In a video shared on Instagram, he explained that his concern is not with Toke’s decision to become a mother but with what he sees as an attempt to spiritualize a choice that falls outside the biblical standard of marriage before parenthood.

“I am happy that Toke is having a child at almost 40. It seems like it is something she has really desired as a woman, but I have a problem with mixing Jesus and God with it.
As a Jesus girl or Christian, we need to be very careful how we mix God with our personal decisions, whether they are Godly or not. The only right way to be a parent, according to God’s standard, is in the premise of marriage,” he said.

Buchi emphasized that while mistakes happen and do not define anyone’s life, he feels that intentionally planning to have a child outside wedlock and then trying to justify it spiritually is problematic.

His comments have since sparked mixed reactions—some of his followers agree, echoing his concerns about aligning faith with lifestyle choices, while others argue that only God has the right to judge and that motherhood, in any form, is a blessing.

Opinion:
Solomon Buchi’s reaction highlights a debate that often arises at the intersection of faith, personal choices, and societal realities. On one hand, his perspective reflects a strict adherence to biblical teachings—marriage first, children next. For Christians who hold firmly to traditional doctrine, his stance resonates deeply.

On the other hand, the reality of modern life paints a broader picture. Many women today, especially those nearing 40, face societal and biological pressures that influence their choices about motherhood. For some, waiting for the “perfect” marriage before becoming a mother may feel risky, and they choose fulfillment in parenthood on their own terms.

Toke Makinwa’s decision, whether or not one agrees with it spiritually, speaks to a growing narrative of women embracing autonomy over their lives. And while Buchi raises valid points about scriptural standards, one could also argue that faith is deeply personal, and how individuals relate their experiences to God is unique to their journey.

Perhaps the bigger conversation is not about whether Toke is right or wrong, but about how society—and the church—navigates the tension between doctrine and the evolving realities of human desires and decisions. After all, if motherhood is indeed a gift, then celebrating the joy without condemning the vessel may be the more compassionate path.