Idia Aisien Opens Up on Painful Past Relationships, Says She Once Gave Ex Millions for ‘Business’

Nollywood actress Idia Aisien became emotional while discussing her past relationships during a candid interview with media personality Toke Makinwa.

During the sit-down conversation, Aisien revealed that she had previously supported some of the men she dated financially, believing she was investing in relationships that could lead to marriage.

According to the actress, some of her former partners claimed their businesses were struggling, prompting her to give them millions of naira to help them recover.

“I used to give men money. They will say their business is bad. I will give them a couple of million,” she said.

She explained that her actions were motivated by the belief that supporting a partner during difficult times would strengthen the relationship and eventually be reciprocated when the man became successful.

However, Aisien said the experience often ended in heartbreak.

In one instance, she claimed a man she had financially supported used the money for a trip with another woman instead of investing it in the business as promised.

According to her, the man initially claimed his phone had stopped working and insisted he was still in Lagos. But the truth reportedly emerged when her brother sent her a photo showing the man abroad with another woman.

“He claimed he was in Lagos but that his phone was having issues,” she said, adding that she later discovered he had travelled with a woman despite receiving money from her for business purposes.

Reacting during the conversation, Makinwa strongly disagreed with financially supporting boyfriends, especially when there is no formal commitment.

“You don't have a ring on your finger, so that man's destiny has nothing to do with you,” Makinwa said, arguing that a woman’s financial resources should not be tied to a partner’s uncertain plans.

Opinion: Love, Support, and the Risks of Financial Boundaries

Idia Aisien’s story highlights a reality many people quietly experience in relationships—the complicated line between emotional support and financial vulnerability.

In many cultures, including Nigeria’s, it is common for partners to support each other financially. However, the lack of clear boundaries can sometimes create situations where trust is abused.

Toke Makinwa’s perspective reflects a growing mindset among many young professionals: that financial independence should also come with financial caution, especially in relationships that are not yet legally or formally committed.

Ultimately, the issue may not simply be about giving or not giving money. Instead, it raises a deeper conversation about trust, accountability, and the importance of protecting oneself emotionally and financially in relationships.